Care for Our Children
Between 18 months and age 3, children begin exercising their right to say no. It ought to be respected because the child comes to discover that his/her being is consequential. For us to know that reality is altered by their beingness is the gift we can give. It is crucial for one to come to know the awesomeness of power that is developed during this period for the child. It is between the ages of 2 -5 that they fall in love with themselves are out of love with themselves. We as adults are the catalyst for this expression of NO as a training towards their grandeur and power as human beings. We determine the nature and direction of their growth.
Jim Rohn says that “direction determines destination…you cannot change destination overnight but you can change direction”.
“If children are criticized, overly controlled, or not given the opportunity to assert themselves, they begin to feel inadequate in their ability to survive, and may then become overly dependent upon others, lack self-esteem, and feel a sense of shame or doubt in their own abilities. http:/,/allpsych.com/psychology101/social_development/
We in education tend to be more concerned with the cognitive development of the child. Erik Erikson’s concerns regarding the development of children was about how children socialize and how this affects their sense of self. “Erikson’s Theory of Psycho-social Development has eight distinct stages, each with two possible outcomes. According to the theory, successful completion of each stage results in a healthy personality and successful interactions with others. Failure to successfully complete a stage can result in a reduced ability to complete further stages and therefore a more unhealthy personality and sense of self. These stages, however, can be resolved successfully at a later time.” (see chart below)